Some men may have passing thoughts of suicide while others can find themselves thinking about suicide frequently. If this is you, a family member or a mate, it’s time to talk to someone you trust and tell them how you’re feeling. You don’t have to feel this way, help is available.
If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 000 or go to your nearest hospital emergency department.
It can be hard to talk about, but it is important to ask directly and listen to his answers.
People who are experiencing suicidal thoughts are often hesitant to bring it up themselves but are likely to feel relieved to be able to talk about it and express how they’re feeling.
If you are concerned that he might be at risk of suicide, the best thing to do is ask the question “Are you thinking of taking your own life?” This can be difficult, but research has shown that asking this question directly is safe and won’t put the idea into somebody’s head.
If he is suicidal, he is likely to feel relieved to have someone ask him and be able to talk about how he is feeling.
If he has a plan and the means to carry out that plan, it’s important to find help straight away.
If you feel comfortable, you could say “We really need to get some help for you. We can’t let this keep going the way it is. We can ring 000 for an ambo, or we can go to hospital ED, or we can ring 1800 011 511 (the NSW Mental Health Line) to get their advice. Which one do you prefer?”
Doing nothing isn’t an option, it’s important to take action to keep the person safe, but it’s also important to be aware of your own safety as well. If you are feeling unsafe, remove yourself from the situation and call 000 immediately.
If he doesn’t have a plan, or if you are unsure of what to do, call the NSW Mental Health Line on 1800 011 511 for advice.
For more information on talking about suicide, read the Conversations Matter resource here.
If you find you’re struggling to have the conversation, enlist the help of a trusted family member or friend or phone a help line such as Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 or Lifeline 13 11 14 to talk it through.
After having this conversation, it is common to feel shaken and exhausted. Make sure that you look after yourself, talk through things confidentially with someone you trust, phone a helpline such as Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 or Lifeline 13 11 14, or check out our information on finding professional help.